"I am", this is a very interesting phrase, because whatever you say next, your subconcious mind believes it is true. Have you ever been angry with yourself and said, "I am so stupid!"? How did you feel after feeling the anger and making that statement? I am willing to bet that you not only felt angry, but you probably felt down emotionally. Have you ever had one of those days where everything was going fantastic and you said to yourself, "Man, I am having the best day of my life!"? How did that feel? I'll bet you felt unstoppable.
So what is the big difference between the two? Why do people feel so down by saying one thing and so energized by saying just the opposite? The answer is simple, whenever we say "I am" and what ever the next statement we make, our subconscious believes to be the absolute truth. We have two minds, one is the conscious, or the critical mind. With our conscious minds, we make decisions. We decide whether or not we like something, we want to do something or who we even want to be with. Our subconscious mind, our non-critical mind is the sponge, waiting to absorb information, waiting to be programmed. It does not make judgement or make decisions, it is simply a computer that is waiting to be programmed. When we learn how to make statements, like, "I am" and when we make that statement, followed by an emotion, such as anger, happy, depressed, excited, etc., our subconscious mind then connects the statement with that feeling. We then program ourselves to feel a certain way and "bingo", we either feel angry, happy, depressed or filled with excitement.
So how do we turn this around? How do we make the necessary changes so we feel good about ourselves instead of feeling bad? This is how we do it. First of all, we must be aware of what we are saying and what emotions we are feeling. If you are angry about something you did, instead of saying, "I am so stupid!", try saying, "Well, that didn't work out the way I wanted it to, I think I'll try doing it a different way." If by chance you may have said something that may have hurt someone's feelings, instead of saying, "I am so stupid for saying that!", or "I am so insensative!", simply say to yourself, "That was not the best thing to say, I am going to call them and apologize and work this out." Notice how you can use, "I am going to call them and work this out" as a positive statement?
Second, be aware of how you are feeling when making these statements and make a conscious effort to stop yourself from making a negative statement. Think it over, and calm yourself down. Then think about what you really want to say. So, instead of saying, "I am so stupid for doing that!", you can stop yourself, calm yourself down and say humorous something like, "That was silly what I did, I sure hope I learned a good lesson. Now I am going to do that a different better way."
So the next time you use the phrase, "I am", say to yourself, "beautiful" or "handsome", such as, "I am beautiful" or, "I am handsome" and have a great day.
Remember, if you have any questions, please feel free to e-mail me at davidmlangis@gmail.com and I will get back to you.
Actionize now and The Future Is Yours!!!
cheers
David