This page is all about your greatest lesson. Your greatest lesson was not that time in your life when you achieved your greatest moment. Believe it or not, your greatest lesson was your last mistake. Let me ask you this, whenever you do something right the first time, what did you really learn? But, if you do something and you end up making a mistake, how much do you really learn?
Mistakes were designed for one thing and that is to learn something. Can you imagine never making a mistake and you everything you do, is perfect? Can you imagine how boring that would be? Right now, you might think, "Are you kidding me!!! Never make a mistake, that would be amazing!!!" It might be amazing now, but after a few times, life would get pretty boring and unsatisfying. Can you remember a time when you made a mistake, and I'm talking about a real doozy? I'm willing to bet you really learned a lot from that mistake.
Now, this is where people have a difficult time and that is dealing with making a mistake. People seem to become very upset with themselves. They end up talking themselves into a frenzy. Please look at the page titled, "INTERNAL DIALOGUE AND HOW IT WORKS". I have seen people make a mistake and they end up getting very depressed. I myself, have made mistakes and I used to be so hard on myself, until I learned these very valuable steps that really do work. But, they only work if you actually apply them to your lives.
Here some simple steps to help you deal with making mistakes:
STEP ONE:
First of all, you are going to make mistakes. Mistakes happen and they are going to always happen. Step one is accepting the fact that we are going to make mistakes and this is okay. I'm not saying you should purposefully go out and say to yourself, "Yes !!! Today, I am going to really screw up my life!!!" What I am saying is to accept the fact that all of us will make mistakes sooner or later. Tell yourself, "It's okay that I make mistakes, just as I learn something from them. Mistakes are going to be my greatest lessons.". Here is an exercise you can do for this. Can you remember a time when you made a mistake and you felt bad about it? What was it you did? If you could make changes in the mistake you did, what exactly would you do differently that would fix the mistake? If you could make those changes now, how would that make you feel?
STEP TWO:
Step two is acknowledging that you know that making mistakes is normal and that mistakes are full of lessons. You also know that you will be in control of how you choose to feel after making a mistake. Feeling positive, knowing that you are prepared to learn a great lesson from your mistakes. Simply acknowledge that you are in control and you have the ability to make the changes needed to turn the mistakes into desired results. Please checkout the page titled, "DESIRED RESULTS VERSUS NON-DESIRED RESULTS". Try not to get stressed out when a mistake is made. When you are in control and you know you are in control, you will find yourself dealing much better and not getting stressed out. Take a deep breath, stand back and see where you can make the necessary changes to correct the mistake.
STEP THREE:
Learn from your mistakes and move forward. DO NOT FOCUS ON WHAT THE MISTAKE WAS OR "WHAT'S GOING TO HAPPEN IF I DO IT AGAIN?"!!! Mistakes are going to happen, accept it, move on. Make the changes that must be made, then, move forward. There is no need to live in the past. Living in the past only immobilizes you with fear. Like everything else in life, the more you practice, the better you get. Remember that practice does not make perfect, practice makes better. It does not matter what other people think when you make a mistake. I personally don't care what people think of me. I care how they think of themselves and how they feel about themselves. I just don't care what others think of me. I find that when someone makes a mistake, one of the first things they fear, is "what happens if someone finds out?". Who cares what people think? It's your mistake and it is your right to learn from your mistakes. All that matters at the end of the day, is how good you feel about yourself. Look in the mirror every day and say to yourself, "I am beautiful, I love myself more every day. I am worth living for. I will learn from my mistakes and apply the lessons to my life". Please feel free to look at all the pages in this blog, there is lots to learn and they are fun. For any questions, please feel to contact me at my e-mail address, davidmlangis@gmail.com and I will get back to you. Remember, THE FUTURE IS YOURS and live life with passion>
Cheers
David Lang